We leave the enchantment of youth, and are steadily conditioned to believe that romance only exists in long-stemmed roses and candle-lit dinners. It is a debilitating, socially-constructed phenomenon that limits our senses to intermittent, fleeting moments of sweet clarity. In actuality, romance is the conscious management of ordinary stressors in your most advantageous way. In every moment, whether alone or in the company of another, romance is regulated exclusively by personal judgment.
Here are the steps to designing your very own course to everlasting romance:
Step #1 Test Your Rocking Chair
Imagine that you are a vivacious 70-years-old, relaxing in your favorite rocking chair, atop your dream porch, in your dream home, in your dream town. Every one of your unique self-ideals has been met: everything that you’ve wanted to achieve in fulfillment of your one-of-a-kind purpose is achieved; every relationship is thriving; every to-do, done; every bill, satisfied; and every item on your bucket-list, checked. Then, involve your infinite senses: take-in the view, taste your refreshing beverage, feel the honeyed air upon your skin, savor your accomplished and grateful heart…
Step #2 Discover Your Wisdom
Apply what you learned in your rocking chair to the now, and you will minimize disagreements between your present and future self; this will help to manage feelings of a stressful life. Stress is merely pressure from the environment, and you decide its bearing: oblivious reactions to stress paralyze you with anxiety, but consciously directed responses to pressure will steer you into purposeful action. Fall in love with your elderly self, commit to guiding yourself throughout your course, and you will minimize distress along the way.
Step #3 Maintain Your Course
If you spend too much of your time appreciating insignificant details, you will mindlessly drift into the storm. Instead, accept inevitable challenges as part of the wholly satisfying nature of reality, because the things that you judge as bad play a key role in motivation (see adage: everything happens for a reason). Regulate your experience wisely by remembering your vivacious future-self in all of your decisions, and in all of your routine, and you will begin to draw those elusive and intermittent, fleeting moments of sweet clarity into every second that you truly do.